A woman who doesn't know how to cook for her family is a failure. It's as simple as that- same way a man who doesn't provide for his family is worse than a terrorist. (1 Tim 5:8)
The man who is fine with his wife not knowing how to cook for the family and "dutifully" calls home afraid to order their meals is also a failure. His job is to help make his wife better, not abet her failure. If she can't cook, make sure she learns!
There are roles in every team and in every relationship. A defender/goalkeeper's primary role is to stop the ball from entering the net. If he scores some goals while he's at it, he's added extra to the team, but if he leaves the net unguarded in the quest for goals of his own, he has failed. And same for a striker- it doesn't matter how well he defends- if he doesn't score goals he's failed.
If it's stereotype to expect a woman to know how to cook for the family and take care of kids, then it's also stereotype to expect men to provide for the family. And it's a stereotype that I fully buy into because it's a biblical stereotype. Read Proverbs 31 and you'll see that getting up early to feed the fam is PREREQUISITE for being a woman of virtue. It's not about how you feel about it or whether or not you like it, same way it doesn't matter if a man enjoys going through whatever he has to go through to provide for his family in a just manner. Just like being a Christian or doing the right thing, it's not all fun and games or personal preferences. Know your role. Play it well.
THE BEST MARRIAGE ADVICE EVER!!
Twenty-five principles to your relationship, that could make a life-changing difference in your marriage!
In no particular order:
1. Choose to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.
2. Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling and when possible, try to keep your phone
off when you’re together with your spouse.
3. Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the “currency of relationships” so consistently invest time into your marriage.
4. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage and remove yourself from people who
may tempt you to compromise your character.
5. Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy, and even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.
6. In every argument, remember that there won’t be a “winner” and a “loser.” You are partners in everything
so you’ll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.
7. Remember that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It’s usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.
8. Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it!
9. Remember that marriage isn’t 50-50, divorce is 50-50. Marriage has to be 100-100. It’s not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they’ve got!
10. Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.
11. Learn from other people, but don’t feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else’s.
God’s plan for your life is masterfully unique!
12. Don’t put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your kids or else you’ll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.
13. Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.
14. Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage.
15. When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, “I was
wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”
16. When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly which will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to
be rebuilt. You should be quick to say,
“I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”
17. Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important that your schedule.
18. Model the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up to be good husbands and your
daughters want to grow up to be good wives.
19. Be your spouse’s biggest encourager, not his/her biggest critic. Be the one who wipes away their tears, not the one who causes them.
20. Never talk badly about your spouse to other people or vent about them online. Protect your spouse at all times and in all places.
21. Always wear your wedding ring. It will remind you that you’re always connected to your spouse and it will remind the rest of the world that you’re off limits!
22. Connect into a community of faith. A good church can make a world of difference in your marriage and
family.
23. Pray together. Every marriage is stronger with God in the middle of it.
24. When you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, say nothing every time!
25. Never consider divorce as an option. Remember that a “perfect marriage” is just two imperfect people
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