Sex is an issue most people avoid to discuss, but it is very important for a couple to talk about it even before going into marriage properly. The concept of sex did not start today, and it has always been an important element in marriage. Some authors say: until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognized. This shows how important sex is in marriage.
Sex needs does not mean that the man wants it more than the woman or that she wants it more than her man; it goes both ways but the hormones and the condition of the mind also affect sex drives.
Atimes, aggressive men during love-making or sexmay make one think that what a man needs from a woman is sex. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. If he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married sex is never what he needs from you.
I recommend some nice books on relationships from Nancy Van Pelt called "The Compleat Marriage", "The Compleat Courtship", "Smart Love", "Highly Effective Marriage" and "The Compleat Tween", as many young girls think because they are sexually active and have great sexual experience they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them; and when a man approaches them for marriage, they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex. Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.
A story was told of a pretty young girl who was tall and sexually active. Due to the fact that she thought sex is all that matters to a man, ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her sexual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue and reason beyond imagination a very handsome good man married her. The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage fell on rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.
The holy Bible says: "wife, submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women. Sadly, many young ladies in our present day call submission as "control." You may hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be.
When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love her sincerely. There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need sex, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the QUEEN you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and be his maid also.
I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationship and marriage. May God bless you with good marriage, my dear sister.
Love your spouse equally, and respect them. Women are golden and should be treated too with much respect. Have a happy relationship, marriage and family and remember that communication is very important. Good luck!
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